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Help for Siblings of Autism

We watched a movie today that I picked up from the public library for the 7 year old sibling. It was everything I expected it to be and more! I highly recommend Understanding Brothers and Sisters on the Autism Spectrum by http://www.coultervideo.com, if you have other children that are nuerotypical to help them understand their sibling with ASD better. It is broken down into sections for different age groups. The length of the video section is based on the age group it is geared toward. So, for children 4-7 yr  it’s only 7 minutes long. The next section is for 7-12 yrs, which is 25 minutes in length. I don’t recommend watching the first 2 back to back if you have a 7 yr old. It was a bit too long.

We discussed it briefly afterward, so I could gauge what she got out of it, while it was still fresh in her mind.  I asked her if she learned anything. She said yes, that she learned things she could do to help them get along better. Like, when they are playing she could be more flexible and play what her sister with autism wants to play and not get upset that she is telling her how to play because she can’t help it since she has autism. She learned how to help her in situations that are stressful for her and how to help her calm down. Also, to get me if she seems like she may hurt herself or others. Mostly she said she learned that it is not her sister’s fault and that she can’t help it that she has autism.

All in all, I feel that this video was excellent and I plan on getting the whole family (my sister and her kids, step kids) to watch it too. I was not in anyway compensated for or asked to write this post. Everything in this post is my opinion and wrote because I chose to.

This video can be purchased http://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Brothers-Sisters-Autism-Spectrum/dp/B000SNUSEW/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1352213727&sr=8-1&keywords=understanding+brothers+and+sisters+on+the+autism+spectrum+video if you would like to own it. They do have some being sold for less that are used. I plan on purchasing one of them, asap!


Homeschool vs. Autism School

For years I have struggled with this decision except in the past the competing school was public/private not a special Autism school. One would think the decision easy, child has autism. . .child goes to autism school. Since she began going to the autism school 7 months ago, her behavior has become worse and she has begun pulling all the hairs out of her body. We have recently learned that this has a name. Trichotillomania. It has frightened me, grossed me out and worried me none stop for months. I believe I have a permanent frown in my brow now. I have done some research on the subject and have recovered from those emotions mostly and am beginning to help her not do it as best we can without making her feel bad about it.

It should be clear that this particular special autism school is not the right one. So, now what? I have a set of 2 yr old twins at home and a grandmother that has no patience for them. It puts me in quite a predicament. I, also had recently begun fulfilling my own need to be successful through painting, drawing and crafting. Of course, these things fulfill more than that “monetary” need. Success is defined in so many ways. It fulfills my sensory needs, emotional and spiritual needs in so many ways. These activities will have to be put on hold indefinitely as I am no super mom. I read other’s blogs where they are crafting, parenting wee ones all day and blogging about it. WTH! I don’t know how they do it.

I have been placing phone calls nonstop for 2 weeks trying to find anyone or anything that can help lighten my load with the task at hand. So far, progress is slow. Mostly due to needing to fill out paperwork to apply for financial assistance for the programs I can enter her in. Which has been our barrier for well over a year now. Finances. Money. No money. Frustration.

Today we choose to keep her home on the basis she do exactly what I want with no meltdowns, etc. So far it has been a success! She has watched 30 minutes of the history channel and wrote a 4 paragraph paper on Tsunami’s. Drew a picture using the paint program on our computer. It was supposed to be a pic to go with the paper but she veered a little off course. It turned out to be a pic of her on a tightrope above a pool of dolphins with a stadium full of people watching. I guess in some way that is her version of a Tsunami.