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Are We There Yet?

Are We There Yet? Who hasn’t asked that question at least once? The American family vacation. We are headed to visit my folks in West Virginia, yes that’s a state all it’s own people. My hope is that we make it as unmemorable as possible! It is the first trip in a year since we moved here. I am at least not dreading it this time, yet. I have actually cancelled this trip a couple times this year because I just wasn’t ready yet. Just the drive alone, albeit short is still long with 4 children. I always wait until the last minute to pack and then end up in a frustrated flurry. I end up forgetting things, blah, blah, blah.

So far, although I waited everything is running smoothly. Well, except for 3 out of 4 kids being sick and one screaming at the top of her lungs over a toy. Even for a short trip, 3 hours or less, you still have to prepare. Suitable snacks and toys for all, pillows, blankets and a lovey, and activities to keep them entertained. Then, an entire bag of safe, effective sensory toys to keep my girl from losing it. Unfortunately, on these trips she ends up in the 3rd row seat, which is not ideal for her. I have actually had to bail over everybody to help her calm down before. I will be driving this time, so I won’t be able to do that. The most important thing I must remember is never ever to let on I am frustrated. I must let a calm, quiet voice out, even if it’s screaming in my head.

What are appropriate car toys? Small stuffed animals, magna doodles, books, and nothing that looks like it wants to be thrown. For a 10 year old with autism, safe chewy’s made for an older child, small squishy, stretchy toys and lots of crunchy healthy snacks like granola and pretzels. Oh, and a cotton(for breathing purposes)pillow case to hide her head in for “alone” time.

Welp, wish us luck and have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving!


Sick Exemption

I interrupt this regular program to bring you a special announcement, actually more of a statement. Parents should be exempt from sickness, especially parents of special need children. Not to say we are better than parents of nuerotypical children or more worthy. We may not even be less stressed but since I have no idea because I have never been just a parent of a nuerotypical child, I say this in selfishness to my situation. I hope not to offend anyone, just to simply vent.

I received bad news this week, and now I wait to see if the bad news is going to turn worse than bad news or just remain the same. I had to go to a gyn specialist because my regular dr had some concerns. He said as long as I come back cancer free in my “underworld”, then he can fix everything else. He said the good news is that he is a minimally invasive surgical specialist.Um, okay. Well, glad to hear it, I think.

So, what is the bad news I received? I apparently became too greedy when it came to wanting children. I had more than my body could carry. Some of my major organs are now falling out of me in a very literal sense. The ones I don’t need will be removed and the ones I do need will be repaired. The specialist did say he could fix me, that is good news. I sincerely pray that God has given me all that I can handle because I can deal with this, even though it is “serious”. As all mother’s do, I hope my children are not meant to be motherless.

*I am not a professional writer. Most likely there are and will continue to be mistakes in my work. I apologize. I am forever trying to improve and educate myself. Thank you for reading my work. I crave social interaction, please comment! I would love to hear from you and will always reply personally and individually to everyone.